I recently had surgery on my left shoulder and I have been struggling to stop and let myself heal. I have been wanting to continue to do my daily tasks. It is important to let yourself heal. Allow your body to do what it knows how to do. Take care of it.
My healing right now is physical but there are many different types of ways that your body my need to heal.
You may need to heal mentally. Maybe you had a break up, or a really bad day at work. Or you lost a loved one. Whatever it may be, the number one thing to do is let yourself heal. Take the time to let yourself heal. There is nothing wrong with stopping what you are doing and giving yourself a breather.
I know I struggle with this especially when I am recovering from surgery. I feel like I should be doing all the things I had been doing before and even better now. Dylan playfully scolded me for making dinner the night I had my surgery. I thought I was being nice because I was making him dinner when he came home from work. But he was right, I should not have worried about making dinner like he had told me no to do earlier in the day. I regretted it later that night when my shoulder was throbbing and I needed to ice my shoulder.
I have now had two surgeries in the last six months. One on my foot, where I had part of a bamboo skewer taken out of my foot (clumsiness combined with a multi-tiered wedding cake that was being held together by said bamboo skewer and accidents will happen) and the other was my shoulder. You would think that after the last one that had me in bed for several days I would know to slow down and let myself heal. Nope not the case. I have been taking it easier but I still get those voices in the back of my head telling me that I should be doing more.
I shouldn’t be sitting on the couch icing my shoulder, I should be cooking dinner instead. I should be doing this. I should be doing that.
The hardest person that I have had to say no to is myself. I have to tell myself to say no that I need this moment to let myself heal. I need this time to do so or I will make things worse. Or I will prolong the healing process and I will not get better. I know how hard it is to stop, especially with our society which is always on the go.
Also follow the doctor’s instructions after surgery. They know what they’re doing.
Love Always, Kiri
Questions for you:
- Have you ever had surgery?
- What do you do when you need to tell yourself no?