Lifestyle, Self Care

Let yourself heal

I recently had surgery on my left shoulder and I have been struggling to stop and let myself heal. I have been wanting to continue to do my daily tasks. It is important to let yourself heal. Allow your body to do what it knows how to do. Take care of it. 

My healing right now is physical but there are many different types of ways that your body my need to heal.

You may need to heal mentally. Maybe you had a break up, or a really bad day at work. Or you lost a loved one. Whatever it may be, the number one thing to do is let yourself heal. Take the time to let yourself heal. There is nothing wrong with stopping what you are doing and giving yourself a breather.

I know I struggle with this especially when I am recovering from surgery. I feel like I should be doing all the things I had been doing before and even better now. Dylan playfully scolded me for making dinner the night I had my surgery. I thought I was being nice because I was making him dinner when he came home from work. But he was right, I should not have worried about making dinner like he had told me no to do earlier in the day. I regretted it later that night when my shoulder was throbbing and I needed to ice my shoulder.

I have now had two surgeries in the last six months. One on my foot, where I had part of a bamboo skewer taken out of my foot (clumsiness combined with a multi-tiered wedding cake that was being held together by said bamboo skewer and accidents will happen) and the other was my shoulder. You would think that after the last one that had me in bed for several days I would know to slow down and let myself heal. Nope not the case. I have been taking it easier but I still get those voices in the back of my head telling me that I should be doing more.

I shouldn’t be sitting on the couch icing my shoulder, I should be cooking dinner instead. I should be doing this. I should be doing that. 

The hardest person that I have had to say no to is myself. I have to tell myself to say no that I need this moment to let myself heal. I need this time to do so or I will make things worse. Or I will prolong the healing process and I will not get better. I know how hard it is to stop, especially with our society which is always on the go. 

Also follow the doctor’s instructions after surgery. They know what they’re doing.

Love Always, Kiri

Questions for you:

  1. Have you ever had surgery?
  2. What do you do when you need to tell yourself no?
Lifestyle, Self Care

5 ways to stay motivated

I know that there are times when I have trouble staying motivated to do things. I try to do some or all of these tips below to stay motivated. I occasionally need a reminder every now and then.

  1. Make a To Do list

This is my number one thing to keep me going. I get a little boost of confidence when I get to cross something off on a list. You can make the to do list on your phone, on a piece of paper, on a napkin if that’s your sort of thing. Anything that you want to make a list on. I like doing it on a piece of paper or in my planner. That way I can cross it off physically.

  1. Take a Break

This might seem counterproductive but sometimes taking a break will help. Get up move or just do something else other than what your task currently is. It helps me to get things done if I can take a break.

  1. Break Things into Small Tasks

Sometimes things can get overwhelming with whatever task you are doing. If you are able to break it into smaller tasks it will help make it feel not so big. The smaller the task you break it up into the better. You can even combine tip number 1 with this one if you need to.

  1. Reward Yourself

After you complete a task give yourself a little reward. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. Just something that you consider to be a reward to you. Rewards are different for everyone.

  1. Take Care of Yourself

Self-care is super important. We live in a society that is always on the go. There is never enough time in the day to get all of our tasks done. There are times we are just going and don’t take care of ourselves. When you are feeling overworked or overwhelmed we don’t usually do our best on whatever task it is that we are trying to tackle. Continually practicing self care is important. So take that moment to do a face mask, have a glass of wine or just a quick little walk outside to get some fresh air.

Questions for you:

  1. What do you do to stay motivated?
  2. What is your favorite thing to reward yourself with?
  3. How do you practice self care?